Sorry for the spam... Here is an explanation about the "strange" fact mentioned in the subject, that I owe you from last week.
Consider the chain with transition matrix . The corresponding stationary distribution is .
Consider now , and let T>=0 be the coupling time of X and Y.
Then it holds that , as the chains X and Y can only meet in state 1 (including if T=0). This is saying that at the coupling time, the distribution of the chain X is everything but the stationary distribution .